I don’t understand why everybody is so much afraid of adult conversations.
You don’t like me? Tell me why. I want to better myself..
You don’t want to talk to me? At least don’t ignore me. Tell me the reason.
You are mad at me? Express your feelings.
Am I wrong somewhere? Let me know. Let me correct myself.
We don’t agree? Let’s talk it out. Let’s share our feelings.
It’s not that difficult to have such conversations. I believe. We should try no matter how hard things get. Share your viewpoints people.
P. S. Miscommunication is the greatest distance between two people. It is started by EGO and some of the best relationships get broken because of this.
While talking to a close one the other day I realized so many things were going wrong in his life. He was struggling each day to make a balance between his family and career. He was unable to spend proper time with his loved ones. So many things were frustrating him and all he wanted was Someone to listen to him. Someone to talk to without fear of being judged, someone to say some kindly words, someone to motivate him when he saw his efforts doom.
And I wondered that today there are so many people out there who just want someone to listen to them, someone to tell them its not a big deal, to say that its going to be okay. Aren’t we human beings many time choking with emotions ? Our almost solitary lifestyles (despite the many social media friends) leaves us short of company at the time of crisis. And then there is the fear of being judged or harming our carefully photo shopped picturesque lifestyle that we want to present to everyone.
I know these fears exist because sometimes I myself am doubtful – whether to share or not. In the end, I have realised that it is much better to open my heart, to involve some people in my ups & downs and give help to others just as readily.
P. S. Do share who are the people in your life who are always willing to listen to you?
Have you ever asked yourself this question?
For days, I was demotivated, confused, in a state of depression. I would stay isolated, I talked very less and my daily activities were also decreasing as lethargy was seeping in. Something was always bothering me.
One day, I decided to talk about it to a stranger as I had the feeling of being judged by my known ones. After listening to my story he asked me 1 single question “What makes you happy?” I was clueless about the same at that moment. He told me to jot down 1 thing that made me happy every day.
Initially it was difficult for me, but I realized a few things which did make me happy: Doodling, visiting new places, meeting new people, getting to eat sweets and My NGO work are a few that topped the list.
After realizing this, I started to spend some time of the day doing these things and my state of mind improved. I am now at peace with myself.
P.s. How often do you ponder about this question? What is it that gives you immense happiness people? I would love to know in the comments below. 🙂
Ever faced rejection while asking your parents for something? Happens? So what do you do? You still don’t give up right? You beg, you plead, you through all your emotional tantrums would try to get the thing or work done.
Love mostly comes to us somewhat like that. Where we want it on any condition. ‘Do or die:but get it.’ it’s our situation.
We do every possible thing to get love only to realise we are wrong. Because if it is meant to happen, it will and so on the other way around if it’s not meant to be it won’t happen.
And in this process, we slowly loose the little kid inside us. We become afraid. Shattered, lost and mutilated we promise ourselves that we’ll never fall into this trap again.
Little that we know it will all come back, but in a beautiful and larger than life state.
Never let someone demean you, treat you bad or even hurt you a little, because if these things persist. It’s surely not love.
Cause love is something that leads you to happiness and growth. It is something that makes you feel beautiful about yourself and of how lucky you are..
Believe in the magic of love. ❤️
P. S. Hello my blogger family, let’s start this new year with a fresh feeling and let’s love more. Do tell me what are your plans for this year? And what you think of love?
To all the men out there who try to tell a women who or what to be..
Sometimes she needs your attention, Sometimes she doesn’t get along with her family, Sometimes she needs to hit a boxing bag, Sometimes she need to cuddle all day long, Sometimes she needs to wear makeup, Sometimes she is bored with her current hair style, Sometimes she needs to care about the book she is reading, Sometimes she wants to eat that particular meal because it has the correct minerals in it, Sometimes she wants you to cook for her, Sometimes she wants to be a freedom fighter, Sometimes she wants to debate politics with you, Sometimes she will express herself with the poetry she has written, Sometimes she needs to learn from you, Other times she wants to teach you, Sometimes she wants to buy you something, Sometimes she wants you to show her commitment, Sometimes she isn’t bothered about dressing up, Sometimes she wants to be a free spirit….
Everyday she needs your love. Everyday she needs your care. Everyday she deserves to be respected. Everyday she faces problems created by men we call ‘sexism’. Everyday she is a human. She doesn’t need to be stereotyped, to be put in boxes or categories created by men to destroy her self esteem.
She needs to define herself on her own terms. She needs you to listen to her, to what she wants and what she needs.
Everyday she needs to feel special and appreciated. 🙂
P. S. To all the girls, tell me how your world is like in your imaginations which you want in reality. And all the men, do share your views.. Will be waiting.
When she got rejected for an interview,
When she failed an examination,
When nothing would be going the way she wanted..
She asked herself Why me?? When she started losing all her hope, when she didn’t get the desired results she would always ask herself WHY ME?? WHY AGAIN ME??
But in the process, she realised that everything happens for a reason. And instead of asking herself the same repeated question, which many of you might ask yourself when faced with a similar situation. She said Yes me!! didn’t get the desired results so I would work harder in future. Yes me will get the things I desire. Yes something good is in store for me…
After all it’s all about the way you look at things.
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It’s been months, something is stuck on my mind. No matter what time of the day it is, or what activity i’m engrossed in. It doesn’t leave me and my brain is thinking it all over, once again. And I found that I started overthinkng about everything. No matter what the situation is I think, rethink, think once again and still i am not sure if the decision I have taken is right or wrong.
Overthinking each and every thing would make me feel demotivated, I started doubting myself, lost hope, i wont get the desired results. Nothing was actually working nicely or the way I wanted and it started having a bad effect on me and my health.
One day, while talking to one of my friends on phone. I was giving her the same advice when she was stuck somewhere ” DON’T THINK TOO MUCH. Your decision is right. Don’t take stress. Trust yourself. Just distract your mind. Have faith. ”
And i realised this is what i was supposed to do myself. I paused, STOP OVERTHINKING BRAIN i said. And smiled.